Focus, Focus, Focus

stress-reliefThis repost may confuse some of you–at first. This is from a person who is writing about emotional sobriety in programs and processes of recovery related to, as they say “isms”. What struck me is how much applies to those of us who don’t suffer from an addiction but do suffer for many other reasons. It may be emotional or it may be physical. It may be professional—doubts about ability and talent.

What many of us do is to find ways to soldier through that pain and create stories for ourselves, about ourselves. Or we fall back on sarcasm, wistful longing, platitudes, or, yes, meditation. Not that any of these don’t have their place. Anything that can bring a bit of levity or relief can help. But this is may only work momentary. What makes the discomfort pass is the release of tension that comes with facing the problem squarely and mindfully.

So write what you write or practice your yoga poses, face the risks and pain of rejection (the rewards of acceptance will inevitably come), feel awful or sad, doubt yourself, wonder why you are not as flexible mentally or physically, acknowledge jealousy and anger . . . THEN meditate, THEN reflect, THEN find solutions.

All feelings are part of being human. The pursuit of true Spirituality, Professionalism, Confidence, or Well Being can only  be authentic and productive if you are using your whole self in all of its faults and its strengths openly without blocking or pushing back at the discomforts that come to you.

Thank you to the lovely SWAN over on the FB group for bringing this to my attention 🙂 It’s an article in Psychology Today magazine looking at emotional sobriety. I’m sneaking it in as an extra post on Valentine’s Day as talk of emotions seems apt today 🙂 This is what they had to say: […]

via What Is Emotional Sobriety? — A hangover free life

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I am an adjunct assistant professor of English at Pace University in NY, adjunct faculty in English at Raritan Valley Community College in NJ, an online member of the adjunct faculty at SNHU College of Online and Continuing Education, as well as a freelance editor and writer. For many years, I've taught, guided, and tutored many individuals from those as young as kindergarten age to Grad-school students. I've worked on fiction, nonfiction, and memoirs. What has given me the greatest pleasure, is when I have students get together in a group, and create a story together. I offer the theme (e.g., Create a version of Red Riding Hood) and they run with it. I hope to offer this community collaboration to many more people. The goal is to prove that you don't have to be alone to write, you don't have to offer yourself up alone to the group, you can collaborate and offer the world (yes, the world is the community) a chance to create a narrative together. The results have been amazing.

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